Wednesday, January 20, 2010


Just a quick update on where things are right now for the prayer requests.
Yesterday we were told by our SW at Holt that the out of town lady has a conference call set up with the director of the home study agency here. Today I talked to this director who said that NO, they don’t have it set up, she has a request for the call, but does not have a time/date yet.
I was also informed that we will not be re-re-presented at committee tomorrow.

I am having a SUPER hard time being a good “waiter” right now. It seems like pointless waiting. Also the lack of updates as to where we are in the process is very frustrating. Why did I have to call/email to find out that there was supposedly a conference call scheduled instead of the committee date?

Anyway, I am hoping at this point that they are able to schedule this conference call for today or tomorrow… but who knows. Since the Holt lady has been out of town for two weeks, she may be backed up and unable to schedule something that quickly.

I know they have the kids best interest at heart, but they are so worried about a disruption simply because there are 3 of them and 6 of us. I understand that disruptions happen. I know it’s horrible. But as a family, we have personally watched our own family members go through the WORST of the WORST in adoption related issues. We know all of the acronyms and have seen most of the initials in person!! Just because we have never adopted before does not mean we are higher risk for a disruption. Just because there are three of them doesn’t put us at a higher risk for a disruption. Those facts together-  that may be more of a concern, but we are a family and families don’t just wimp out on each other because things get really, really hard. 

When we jumped on this train we knew we had to be prepared for the worst case scenario. We have to be prepared (all adoptive families) for the possibility that our kids could come home, hate us, hate our families, hate our pets, cry all the time, scream 12 hours a day, destroy things in anger, pee on the floor to get back at us, poop on the couch to force us away from them, threaten to kill us or our other children, act out sexually, try to run away, act unsafe in the home, try to set things on fire, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc. These are the harsh realities of many institutionalized kids and we HAVE to know ahead of time that these are very real possibilities – even if those things are less predominant in kids from Africa.
We know all of these things. We know what’s out there. We have seen it. We are as ready as we can be.

Now all we need is the opportunity to do it.

1 comment:

  1. Oh man, sorry you are still dealing with these delays and unknowns :( I hope that Holt will bring resolution to this situation quickly so that you can move forward. Will continue to pray for you!


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